• Badabinski@kbin.earth
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    12 days ago

    Hey there! I want to preface this by saying a couple of things. The first thing is that I don’t really have a horse in this race. What people run in their homelabs is their business, and I appreciate seeing diverse setups. The second thing is that we had a cordial conversation before about nuclear fusion. I’ve seen you around a lot, and I have a pretty high opinion of you. I’ve felt that if we interacted again, it’d be a mutually positive experience.

    After reading this thread, I feel surprised and concerned. The tone of conversations in this thread seems different from what I’ve seen in the past when seeing the rainbow Starfleet badge. I hope I’m coming across genuinely when I ask—is everything okay? I’m not asking out of some oblique motivation to dismiss your point of view, but because I feel like there’s more anger and frustration in some responses than is (in my opinion, and only my opinion) warranted by the situation. Like, for example, have there been bitter arguments about this topic in the past? Is this topic similar to other ones that are frustrating/upsetting? Has today just been a really shitty day? The last one is pretty common for me, and I find that it can make me react with more anger and force than I would have otherwise intended. It doesn’t change my opinions or values, it just affects the way I express myself. I personally do not like to express anger on the internet (unless I feel that my anger is truly warranted), and I sometimes wish someone would stop and ask me “is everything okay?” in those moments. Being able to think about and express feelings about the thing that’s aggravating me is such a relief, and it helps me step back into myself. I’ve seen enough of your posts that I’m going to presume to extend that to you.

    I want to reiterate that my intention here is not to dismiss or reduce your points, nor is it to change your mind. I’m not trying to tone police, because the tone people use on the internet is their own damn business. I’m totally accepting of a “please go away,” if all of this is off base or unwanted in any way. I’ve just grown fond of seeing your comments, and this thread seems like an outlier. If that’s intentional, then I apologize for my presumption.