I don’t put in effort to the extent that it bothers me about it. If it’s convenient sure. If not oh well next time.

One of our friends used to get all bent out of shape because she would prepare all of this food for a party and no one would eat it. I was like girl, stop preparing food then if it’s making you upset. If people get hungry we’ll order pizza.

Sometimes the things you think people will be into are not the things people want to do.

Scale back. Neuroboring people don’t put as much effort into coworkers and social connections as much as I think ADHD brains do because I don’t think they think about it that hard. I learned this when I invited coworkers to my wedding and 2 showed up for like an hour - and I’m pretty sure one of them dragged the other.

People with kids are super flaky too.

I’m just saying yeah you aren’t the priority to these people. Find people who will make you the priority. Keep looking. These connections happen slowly and change over time.

It sounds like you might not know the people who bailed enough to invest that much emotionally into them.

If you thought you did and now you’re not sure then it sounds like you can now have some clarity that they might not be as close to you as you feel to them. Time to pause and question why you’re putting emotional energy into people who aren’t invested.

I’ve been working on this a lot myself. I kind of realized that I was investing a lot of time and energy into friends who live a 5 hour drive away and it’s really convenient for them to have me always drive there. On the flip side none of them have ever made the drive to come visit me. So instead of rearranging my whole life to make a weekend work with them and expending great energy and effort to do so, I started bowing out more often. It’s been better for my peace. Love my friends but I don’t have to run myself ragged visiting all the time because they certainly aren’t doing that.

I put together a huge birthday party for my sister including this whole group. My birthday came around? No one did anything for me and they were all busy, even my sister. That’s fine, it’s telling me I don’t need to make the effort in the future.

If you’re planning on sinking much money, time, and effort into an event it’s best to do formal invitations with RRSPs.

It’s really hard to organize something for a lot of people to participate in and requires a lot of communication and reminders.

I think you discovered who your true close friends are and now you can scale back and not let the rest of them (the bailers) in on your cool life. Something I’ve had to deal with but is better in the long run.

I read my (dementia/alzheimers) mother’s journals and they were full of “she’s just so angry” and “I don’t understand why her room is so messy” and “She’s lazy and won’t help with the family business, but I would have been happy to as a teenager.”

I’m like damn mom you were never given language to actually understand me.

Even my sister to this day goes: “Well now that you know you have it you can just come up with strategies to overcome it.” 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

I wish they would stop this:

ADHD is one of the most common neurodevelopmental disorders affecting children and young adults, with about 10% of young people between the ages of 3 and 17 diagnosed with the condition.

What about women and inattentives who are usually diagnosed way into adulthood???

This makes it sound curable, temporary or like it only impacts young people.

The seats are haptic too. It takes forever to render the graphics apparently so maybe that’s why - not playback but rendering. Apparently After Effects will only go up to 12k?

I’m not super technical but I have been to the Sphere. It’s awesome.

I LOVE this.

Agree with you - I even tried to go see him do standup live after I was gifted tickets. The guy is not funny.

It doesn’t need to be permanent.

I’d almost argue that the Colbert Report is more relevant now because it was a satire of Fox News and right wing news has gotten even more crazy than it was 10+ years ago.

Jon Stewart is such a pro. He’s at the top of his game, even still. He’s just so far above other political commentators it’s beautiful to watch.

And if Colbert makes an appearance this season I will scream like Flanders at those purple drapes.

My question is: What’s in giving these interviews and making these statements for him? He’s exited the role, he’s made himself clear about the stance he took when he was in the role. Why continue to talk?

When I leave a job and go somewhere new I’m not obsessed with dragging my old workplace.

Counterpoint

Yes but I have no clue what to do about it.

I had a hard time in another thread just convincing people that the subject of UAPs is worth any inquiry at all.

I am just chiming in because I feel that people who dismiss the topic in general will see this headline and say see nothing to see here case closed people who investigate this are crazy.

Whereas the phenomena is still very much present and should be investigated - for national security and aviation safety reasons at the very least.

The thing we aren’t exploring or talking about in mainstream discourse is that UAPs might be terrestrial and non-human.

Thanks for the recommendation! Getting it now!