Bad Religion - I Love My Computer

won’t recommend Lemmy to many of my friends or family because I know they will give up

Yeah, when I first started out here, my experience was like this:

• I went to the join Lemmy page, then clicked to show all servers. Then waited. And waited. Then I went to bed.

• By the next morning, the list of servers had managed to load. I spotted one that was advertised as “recommended for users to join to reduce load on the Fediverse”, which seemed like a good idea after seeing how even the join page was battling to load.

• Found out that the server I joined seemed to have all sorts of issues loading content. And was apparently de-federated from a bunch of instances that align with my interests. So search results were showing me little to nothing in regards to queer communities for example, only dead communities.

• Signed up on world instead and encountered multiple posts that said they had comments but loaded nothing. Found out that there were no languages selected in my settings. So I selected ‘undefined’, scrolled down, selected ‘English’, then saved.

• I was still missing a bunch of posts after that, so I went back to settings and saw that ‘undefined’ was deselected again. That’s when I realised that you have to ctrl click each language you choose or else it just deselects the previous language that you clicked on.

• Finally success! 3 or 4 days later. And now I’m here.

I would love to recommend Lemmy to the few people I know who use Reddit. But I can’t see any of them trying without just giving up and going back to the place where all you need to do is sign up and hey presto, content to look at and interact with.

I have a feeling that even the process of choosing an instance would probably put them off. I could give advice but there’s only so much I could do or explain without being there in person helping them. If they have to read walls of text explaining how to get started, it would probably end there.

I’m not sure what the solution is though, or if there even is one. It might just be a little bit like trying to recommend Linux to people who just want to be able to push a button and go. Which is the majority, based on what I’ve seen.

Also just one last thing and something that has been discussed to death. There’s just not enough content here yet for the average person to see any reason to switch over from the place with all the content.

And on that note, recommending this place to people that I know in real life would be too risky right now that they would see my account and figure out who I am. Because there isn’t a crowd of a million people to slip into and disappear here. And this isn’t Facebook. I don’t want people to know about the very personal things I sometimes say on anonymous social media.

Thanks for your input.

Literally the opposite.

After the French Revolution, parliament was arranged so that the people who supported democracy and freedom literally sat on the left hand side; and all of the freeloading, self serving, bootlicking monarchists that wanted to return to rule by a king or queen sat on the right hand side.

Far right are that but more extreme. They don’t just lick boots but also the assholes of the politicians and billionaires that they worship like gods.

In the '80s and '90s, everything these people didn’t like was ‘satanic’. Then that nonsense seemed to disappear for about a decade. Until those people returned with updated terminology that makes them look like ‘free speech’ warriors to all the kids and not the dogmatic psychos that they are.

So since then we’ve gone from SJW to woke to now DEI. But it’s always been the same fucking people, or types of people, that told me that all the cartoons I watch and music I listen to was ‘evil’ and ‘satanic’ when I was a kid.

I actually almost fell for the SJW thing myself back in the day. I was circling that drain. Until I opened my eyes and saw the company that I was in. Since then I’ve been borderline ‘SJW’ myself because fuck those people.

One thing at least is that when you search “Reddit alternatives”, most articles that I came across seemed to make out like Lemmy is the best option in terms of amount of users and not being advertised explicitly as a “free speech and censorship free platform”, which we all know really means “bigots are welcome here.” In fact when I was searching Reddit alternatives, it seemed to me that Lemmy is really the only option.

Fuck ICE. What the fuck are they going to do, deport from my country that isn’t the USA? This makes me feel like I start saying “fuck ICE” on the regular, just to give them more work to do with this thought police shit.

Yeah, Kid Rock rode on the coattails of bands like Limp Bizkit to have a little bit of fame back then. Although he never reached the same heights as most nu metal bands and honestly, the only song of his that I can even remember right now on the spot is that bawitidaba gibberish.

Haha that reminds me of a conversation I was having with a friend once upon a time where I said something like: “I just want to meet someone that wants to spend Saturday night at home watching series and smoking a joint. But that person for me probably doesn’t exist.” And my friend responded with “Nah, they do exist but they’re busy spending Saturday nights at home watching series and smoking a joint, so you’ll never meet.”

Also, small towns fucking suck and this is not a generational thing. You’re stuck between a rock and hard place where the same people who are telling you about the ‘bro code’ and enforcing it on others, are all playing musical chairs with each other’s boyfriends and girlfriends because the dating pool is so small.

If there’s another piece of advice I could give you, fuck the bro code. It’s a lie. None of these assholes will follow it themselves when the opportunity comes up for them and you’ll be the only idiot trying to stay ‘honourable’. Very few people that you ever meet have never dated someone before, so you’re going to be always dating somebody’s ex and you’re going to be always breaking the code anyway whether you like it or not. And in a small town, you can’t afford to pass up opportunities for the sake of assholes that you’ll probably not even be friends with 10 years from now. And who would do the same to you without a second thought.

Also, I don’t know if you saw my edit but I can’t say this enough. Keep the heavy shit about marriage and children to yourself. Keep it light. Coming on too strong is the biggest romance killer. Try to put that shit out of your mind until much later in the relationship, if you can.

May I ask what steps you take to try and meet a partner? I’m asking because I’m pretty lonely too but that’s because I actually never go out and meet people these days. Unfortunately most people have the idea that starting relationships in the workplace is not the way to go, even though you spend 90% of your life there. So you have to go out to clubs and pubs and shit and actually meet and mingle with strangers. Honestly I’m not sure what other options there are besides the workplace or clubbing.

I think that maybe something that is failing the always online Z generation (besides the toxic ‘manosphere’) is dating apps. They seem to be a bust and need to be ditched. Those apps are just there to harvest your data and make a buck from you. If they were to actually help you find love, then that company would lose a customer and source of data or income.

So I don’t know what else to say other than, you need to actually go out and meet new people in order to potentially meet your person. And it also helps grooming yourself a bit, making sure to shave the neck beard and chin strap and looking like someone that is actually capable of taking care of themselves. That goes a long way in showing potential partners that you’re not just looking for another mother to take care of you. And also, find a style and own it. You don’t need to follow fashion trends, just look for a subculture or something that you vibe with and can feel confident wearing.

Just note, not trying to judge or anything. I actually don’t know, maybe you’re a party animal with an awesome dress sense lol. Just trying to throw a few ideas out there for you.

Man: “I’m so lonely and I need help!”

Bystander: “You’re lonely because you listen to people like Andrew Tate and treat women like shit. Try working on yourself to be a better person, so that people will actually be attracted to you.”

Man: “Stop oppressing me, you sexist feminazi! The woke agenda is erasing white men and now just because you had the nerve to point out my flaws after I asked for help, I’m gonna punch a wall and vote for someone who will take your rights away.”

Bystander: “Oh ok. Enjoy your loneliness and self pity then.”

Moderator: Comments removed for sexism against a marginalized group

Everyone: “Why is no one helping guide men onto the right path? How could this be happening?!”

I’ve been thinking about this lineup since last night and I think it might be why I never really got into Metallica or Slayer either. Risking controversy here but as much as I love the thrash sound, those early bands all kinda come across as macho meatheads a little bit to me. The kind of people that beat up kids that listened to heavy metal back in school. And a lot of the older fans of these bands that were around when I was just starting to go to metal clubs and shit gave me those vibes too.

So I’m not sure what Black Sabbath’s excuse is but the rest here seem kinda like birds of a feather to me.

Not just anime. As a DC comics fan over the last few years, a lot of how WB does business looks pretty fucking stupid to me too. I’m willing to bet that if I visit the DC Universe website right now, it’s still going to say something like “not available in your country but keep checking back because we’re working on it!” just like it did 5+ years ago.

And they’ve been handling (HBO) Max with same sort of ‘urgency’. So we’ll get the movies on the big screen but as far as the tie in series go, maybe they’ll make it to Netflix some time after you’ve already been spoilered everywhere you look online, in the DC fan spaces you visit.

One of the funniest things was when James Gunn shared a clip of some school kids in Philippines (I think) doing the choreographed intro sequence dance for Peacemaker along with the theme song. Before Peacemaker was even legally available there.

can’t function in society where random individuals can freely reject their statements, so they need the internet to hide away from life.

Show me where in real life are random individuals able to interrupt your conversations with friends and like-minded people without being told to fuck off or punched in the face? People like you keep peddling this idea that we’re all supposed to ‘meet in the middle’ at all times with bigots that think we don’t deserve human rights, or else we’re the bad ones. Fuck off, what does the ‘middle’ of respecting rights or not respecting rights even look like. And real life doesn’t fucking work like that anyway.

I would not hang out with inbred supremacist ‘alpha’ fucking idiots even if you paid me. And I would not welcome them into my home or my social circles. You’re free to speak but that doesn’t mean that I have to fucking listen.

From what I understand and heard through the grapevine, none of the current members of Village People are even the originals anymore. And their current form wasn’t exactly popular to begin with.

shifted to the point where a double Sieg Heil at your president’s inauguration is within normal discourse

Haha thank you. I’m not even American but to me it’s pretty shocking to find out that this place, world of all instances, is too ‘extreme’ for people. Maybe I really am a dirty radical but I think that if people who consider themselves democrats are still fucking clutching their pearls about the left wing being too left wing while Elon Musk does open nazi salutes and trans people get their rights and dignity stripped away, then it’s no wonder the USA is so fucked.

You guys clearly need a new political party because your choices are overt right wingers, or spineless right wingers that like to pretend they represent the left.

Edit: maybe the bad men will see the light if we all hold hands and sing kumbaya. I’m sure that all of the people who are already finding themselves victims to this will thank you for taking the high road and not scaring too many centrists.

About bloody time. Containers are fine for on the fly use - for checking what pages look like logged out, or visiting a link that you don’t want affecting algorithms etc. but for separating personal and work and whatever else, profiles are the way to go. It’s actually already pretty easy to add ‘about:profiles’ to the toolbar but the more accessible they make it, the better.

I look forward to profiles also making it to the Android app 5 to 10 years from now.

Apologies for the second reply. Just wanted to say that I checked out mbin and it’s probably more up my alley personally.

But, I still have a barely used Facebook account because a lot of people in my country are still on it. And I’m going to see if the rumours are true and try to spread the news about Friendica there, hopefully without my post getting removed or account being banned.

And if / when people from there give Friendica a shot, then I’ll give it a proper shot too with them. It’ll just be used for different things than what I use Lemmy for.

Basically I would be spending much more time in Lemmy communities, and I thought Friendica could be something extra on top to supplement it.

So I would like to be able to browse instances and communities and choose what I want to see and participate in. Either by subscribing or curating a feed or two. I don’t see an obvious way to do this from Friendica yet. It seems like here I need to scroll through a pre existing feed and curate it from there.

But please bear in mind, I haven’t explored extensively yet or read the link you shared earlier, although I have saved that post so that I can get back to it later in my day.

And another small thing for me (that can be easily fixed by styles and apps) is no apparent dark mode.

Made a quick account there to check things out and not sure if it’s entirely the right fit for the particular use case I had in mind. It’s very much inspired by Facebook obviously, which I was expecting but from what I can tell from a quick look, not the kind of Lemmy integration I was hoping for or imagining.

I’m going to keep an eye on this place though, so that I can start encouraging friends and family to join once it’s easy and attractive (in terms of content) for anyone to join.