There’s CHOCOLATE in my peanut butter!!!

Of course there’s nuance. I was just sharing what I’ve had to learn is all. I hope your relationship with your mom is good or better than it was in the past. If that’s what you want or if that works for y’all.

I just started vaping more AND smoking because I could vape in my dorm during winter…

Hurt people hurt people. Past trauma informs how we interact sure, but it doesn’t excuse perpetuating that cycle upon others. A lover isn’t required to be a therapist or a parent.

You’ll find a way through all of this. If you can afford it, a therapist may help.

I went no contact with my narcissist mom. I have ADHD. The final straw was when my grandma (her mom) was dying of bone cancer, and my mom had just got her second divorce. Instead of staying with her mom and being palliative care, and saving money for both of them. She moved to a very expensive apartment near me. When I already had a move planned. I told her I was moving and that she should stay at my grandma’s and help her out. For 4 months she begged me not to move to my dream job and stay with her because she was so lonely in her new town. Like what the fuck. You just left your mother, in her dying months. Where your sister and your brothers and their family live in this massive support network. To a city where your child has told you they’re leaving? What the fuck?

I sold everything I owned, moved in with my gramma, called the job and asked if they’d hold the position for a few months while I get care setup with my aunts and uncles. Mimi died 5 weeks later. My mother didn’t show up to the funeral. I never talked to her again.

I think about my mom every few days. But I’ll never speak to her again. People have no meaning to her.

Going no contact was the best decision I ever made.

I have no idea what will work for you. But I’ve grown and become a better person without having to expend so much energy on my mom. You might find the same benefit in your situation.

You have value, you matter. You must have qualities another partner would be interested in. Or else your ex never would have tried to be with you in the first place. Beware though as soon as you’re showing competence without her she’ll lovebomb the shit out of you.

Good luck.

Considering it’s tailscale, one may want to have the service fail though as tailscale is sometimes not used for convenience but security concerns instead.

No disagreement inferred! Just playing along and pointing out the last link to those that may not get to it is all. I’ll just go back to doomscrolling election predictions and lamenting our lack of RCV here in the states.

Check out that last link I posted there

Absolutely, Robber Barons have been a thing since the rails were laid. It’s a shit system and the main reason we don’t have highspeed rail.

Delay the start of your containers with the tailscale dependency. Are you using required or depends_on in your docker-compose.yml

https://hatchjs.com/docker-compose-conditionally-start-service/

If you’re using kubernetes you can make the requirements at the pod level

https://stackoverflow.com/questions/69423932/container-initialization-order-in-pod-on-k8s

Edit: If using docker-compose.yml you can set a condition on a healthcheck

You can also specify a condition that must be met before the service is started. For example, the following configuration will start the web service only if the db service is healthy:

version: ‘3.7’
services:
web:
image: nginx
depends_on:
– db
condition: service_healthy

The service_healthy condition checks the health of the db service using the docker-compose ps command. If the db service is healthy, the web service will be started.

This kid just got 10k for saying rail infrastructure is failing due to a lack of maintenance. Specifically the springs at junctions. The main failing here in the US though is that rail maintenance falls to rail companies that have little financial incentive to spend the money on safety. That may be changing, however if the federal government just hands over money with inadequate oversight it will just enrich the companies.

https://www.transportation.gov/briefing-room/fact-sheet-rail-safety

https://www.cfr.org/backgrounder/how-us-rail-system-works

https://www.publicrailnow.org/site/assets/files/1036/putting_america_back_on_track_final_6-30-24_single_pages.pdf

Ah ok thanks for that.

I wonder if that includes steamdecks running steamos

Tesla FSD doesn’t exist. Musk lies and says it does to pump Tesla stock. Tesla drivers think they have FSD so they pay less attention and are then more likely to have an accident.

https://techcrunch.com/2024/10/30/zoox-co-founder-on-tesla-self-driving-they-dont-have-technology-that-works/

https://www.theverge.com/2024/4/26/24141361/tesla-autopilot-fsd-nhtsa-investigation-report-crash-death

https://www.forbes.com/sites/bradtempleton/2022/10/31/former-head-of-tesla-ai-explains-why-theyve-removed-sensors-others-differ/

https://www.nhtsa.gov/vehicle-safety/automated-vehicles-safety

Do you own Tesla stock?

The deer are building subdivisions and stroads?

Please don’t fork WordPress. There’s better CMS out there. Look up WPForce if you’d like to see just how terrible WordPress is

Hubspot or SquareSpace will do that for you

Drupal. Grav, Strapi, Postlight, and many others if you want to self host. SquareSpace or Hubspot if you don’t want to self host.