Exactly. Promote it as community outreach, it’s more useful than feel-good Pictures at dog shelters.

Well, when I’m not wanted I tend to burn bridges.

So you advocate for the abolition of money also?

Like banks and insurance companies?

I think all the Rust devs should remove their code and leave. And when in the future the Linux devs change their tune and ask for their help, they should refuse.

People riot

It depends on the country, I’d say.

over less

What is “less” for you?

I love that Theora is called that after the controller in Max Headroom played by Amanda Pays.

That’s precisely my point: Reading more (specially fiction) gives you additional situations, context and ways to face different situations, as well as vocabulary, to help you express yourself when needed.

Dyslexia, anxiety, poor education, not being a native speaker, ADHD, etc.

That “etc.” certainly includes living in an anti-intellectual society full of emotionally stunted people who learned that men shouldn’t care about feelings and that reading is for dorks.

what if I can’t put my feelings into words?

Read more. Then, write more.

It can be very hard to find the right words a lot of the time.

That can be, in many cases, because you don’t read enough to have learned the proper words to express yourself. Maybe you’re even convinced that reading isn’t worth it.

If this is the case, you don’t have anything worth saying. Better stay silent.

You mean Forgejo?

I think he was very polite, considering.

how does BunsenLabs compare to CB++? I know they both came out of Crunchbang but I went with BL when that died.

Also interested. Same scenario.

(i come from a completely different culture, where sexual assaults are extremely uncommon)

What culture is that? I wasn’t aware such a thing existed.

With a life partner, they are your #1 priority and you are their #1 priority. You are meant to be equals. And you’re supposed to stick with each other for life. I get that it’s not necessarily a fairy book that turns out this way, but at least you have a partner in crime. It gets lonely sometimes to be alone.

Well, but that’s earned. You’re not entitled to that. If you tire of people easily, have a short fuse and don’t like people (or the interactions with them) in general, I don’t see that you have much to offer in a way that’s palatable for other people.

Crudely said: What do you have to offer, for someone to want you as a long-term companion?

I can’t just flip a switch and adore someone immediately without taking forever to get to that level. It takes a long ass time for me to develop that kinship. It happens passively when you see someone often for unrelated reasons (like for me, at work…I get to know people over time without the stamina struggle of constantly forcing a relationship). But in dating, that’s the sole focus.

Well, I’d say that’s how it works for must of us. In the cases of “love at first sight”, generally it’s mostly lust dressed as “love”. Dating should be an occasion to know a prospective partner, but it’s the first step of a long road if you want to know the person enough to open to them. I don’t know how many people acts like this, though.

Someone who I am as important to them as they are to me. Someone to spend my life with.

But if you don’t like people, what’s the purpose of having this? A merely pragmatic reason is insulting for the other person.

Dating is the polar opposite of that.

I feel like you feel that you should do that. Ask yourself why.

You know that raising a family is not mandatory and that nobody is (or should be) forcing you to have one, right?

I don’t even know what the hell people are supposed to do with each other.

You’re supposed to do whatever you want to do that is pleasing or interesting for both. That means that if that activity is not pleasing for you, you shouldn’t do it.

If you don’t like people, you don’t. Forcing yourself to interact with people you’re not interested in is a bad idea.